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Updated: Feb 25


It’s so easy to be distracted by others, by other issues, by other events and by other priorities when trying to move forward to reach a goal whether this is in our professional role, in our business venture or in our personal lives.


One of the biggest distractions to reaching a goal for many of the clients I coach is often their inner critic. And this is true for many of us – it can be the one thing that holds us back:

· We compare how we are to others.

· We tell ourselves we are not good enough.

· We question ourselves as to the worth in trying something new.

· We hesitate to accept that opportunity that comes our way, asking ourselves, why me, what can I bring, isn’t there someone better?

· We ask ourselves if we are ready for that promotion, change in role or new career.

· And, if obstacles are placed in our way, then this is a good excuse to put off what we really want (easier this way).


Along with our inner critic, it is often our thoughts about others that prevents us from moving forwards. We sometimes hesitate before taking action or the next step out of fear of how we will be judged or how our actions will be perceived by others. What will others think? What are others doing? What should I be doing? Should I be doing the same as others?

How many times a day do we put off doing something because of our inner critic? How often do we consider the opinions of others before deciding or contemplating something new or different?

How often do we ask ourselves: If I do this, then what will others think of me? What are others doing and should I be doing the same?


Listening to someone speak recently about their success and how they never thought of others in their journey towards their goal made me stop and think about how much more I could get done if I did not consider the opinions of others or if I put my inner critic aside. It made me think about the freedom it would give me to pursue my own goals without distraction.


If you ignored your inner critic and stopped thinking about others before taking action and instead solely focused on getting to your goal, would you achieve more? Would you achieve more quickly? I know I would.


Identify those times when you think of others’ perceptions before taking steps or striving towards a goal. Put these thoughts to one side and see if it makes a difference. It probably won't be easy at first and your brain may need some training, but it may allow you more freedom to be who you wish to be and do what you want to do!

What else holds you back? Send me your comments. I'd be really interested to know.

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